​How Music Plays Me by Aremo Olalekan

​How Music Plays Me by Aremo Olalekan


I love music!

I know that sounds like a cliché of some sort, but mba*, this is me letting you know that I live music. I am media wise, so I am selective of the kind of music I give my ear-time, but I can put a song on replay for days if I get hooked on it.

I have discovered that somehow Music has its ways of influencing my life. For example, if I am feeling down, for whatsoever reason (and I feel like basking in that low), I could play particular kind of ‘slow’ songs, and well I remain ‘low beat’.

If I am interested in being upbeat, all I have to do is jam some really upbeat jamz and before I know it I am shaking off the low feeling.

There are times I want to spend time praying and I am feeling lazy, all I have to do is plug in my ears, and play my ‘prayer playlist’, (yeah, I have a prayer playlist) and I am praying for as  long as I can go.

If I want to get something done fast too, an upbeat jamz would help me without my constant checking of the time. It seems time just has a way of passing faster when I am on these fast jamz.

Have you ever had a time you were upset and the way to shake it off was to move to a groove. Might just be the tap of your feet or the bobbing of your head to a beat and before long, your ‘upset’ is all gone. Well, that is me.

I guess loving to dance too has its contributions to why I respond to music in these ways.

How do you respond to music? I’ll like to hear from you, and yeah, if you would want me to share portions of my playlist, do let me know. I’ll ask for yours too o.

Thank you for reading.

Mba- Igbo language for ‘No’. 
He blogs at http://www.aremotobi.wordpress.com 


Let Go…

At the bus stop we met 

He asked for my sign 

I told him it was stop 

We got talking 

I got draining 

He was good with words 

I was losing the Word 

Yeah…he was baptised 


I was baptised in the Spirit 

But his warmness melted the hotness of the Spirit in me 

I thought he was the One 

So, I did with the last three guys 

Err, I mean brothers 

His texts became my Bible 

I really Joshua 1:8 his texts 

I just didn’t prosper or have good success with him 

The voice of the the Shepherd I ignored 

The voice of the stranger I followed 

He was sincere – 

Sincerely wrong for me 

My head knew that 

But my heart was too stubborn to let go 

After all “we are just friends” 

Romans 8:28 worked for me eventually

Not until I heeded to Wisdom’s call 

After She Proverbs 1:20 

My senses were fixed on him 

When they should have been fixed on Him 

God did turn it around for my good 

I learnt a lesson though 

Some people are meant to be in your life 

To help you through a process 

God used him to teach me not to be 

Stubborn in heart 

But I mistook it for “fighting for what’s supposed to be ‘mine'” 

Or so I thought 

I let him go…….eventually 

You know 

The Art of Letting Go 

The Act of Moving On 

Don’t S.O.S 2:7 every time your emotions 

Come alive at the sight or the thought of a person 

Check with the Holy Spirit first 

Saves a lot.



20170815170241Do you know anyone who loves waiting? Be it waiting for food at the restaurant, waiting your turn at the bank? Be it waiting for an answer to a prayer? There are numbers of things we wait for. I know I don’t like waiting!

Now, waiting on God is not always fun, (tell me about it)! So, for your peace of mind and sanity, while waiting on God for anything, finance, good health, spouse, job, salvation, recovery, anything. Try as much as possible to forget about AGE, TIME, PEOPLE, and SEASON. You’d get pressurized into running ahead of God. (I know from experience the end ain’t good). So chill! Relax! The Bible says God makes everything beautiful in His TIME. (See Ecclesiastes 3:11)


Waiting on God for a spouse, forget about your biological clock, remember you serve the AUTHOR OF TIME, yeah? Pressures at home and society? Keep your focus on JESUS! He’ll hold you through it.

Waiting on God for a Job, Don’t mind the age requirements and 25 years experience they require(I’m exaggerating, but you get the gist). Improve on your skills though. Do your part and let God work it out for you.

Finances? Don’t undermine any platform. God can choose to bless you from any source, (What are you doing with the skills and ideas He has blessed you with already?). Just wait on Him.

For good health? The doctors report gives you zilch hope? Wait on God! He has the answer to all infirmities.

Remember, waiting is not easy or something fun to do. It teaches us to learn to depend and trust in God. I’d tell you Psalms 27:14, “Wait [in faith] on the LORD; Be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the LORD”. If you wait on God and He answers in His time, You’d definitely know for sure all things work together for good. (See Romans 8:28).


Keep your focus on Christ Jesus! God’s Got you!

What To Wear

What To Wear

If what I wear still bothers you, something is wrong then. You should be bothered about what I’m supposed to wear but not wearing. My jeans, short dresses, off-the-shoulder wears, long flowing skirts, buttoned up shirts, make up on fleek, heels as high as a 6 tier cake, shoes so flat I can feel my feet against the ground et al, don’t matter if I’m not wearing the right outfit.
Let’s check Colossians 3:12-14
“Clothe yourselves therefore, as God’s own chosen ones (His own picked representatives), [who are] purified and holy and well-beloved [by God Himself, by putting on behavior marked by] tenderhearted pity and mercy, kind feeling, a lowly opinion of yourselves, gentle ways, [and] patience [which is tireless and long-suffering, and has the power to endure whatever comes, with good temper].
Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive].
And above all these [put on] love and enfold yourselves with the bond of perfectness [which binds everything together completely in ideal harmony].
That’s the Amplified version. We are told to put on COMPASSION, KINDNESS, HUMILITY, GENTLENESS, PATIENCE, BE TOLERANT WITH ONE ANOTHER, FORGIVENESS and most importantly, LOVE which binds all things together in unity. These are much more important than my physical outfit.
Wait a minute, if you want to bring in 1 Peter 3:3, grab your Bible and let’s read from verse 1. I like the Amplified Bible so I’ll be reading from that.
“In like manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives,
When they observe the PURE and MODEST way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him—to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband]”.
Now don’t stop at verse 3, let’s continue to verse 4.
“Let not yours be the [MERELY] external adorning with [elaborate] interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes;
But let it be the INWARD ADORNING and BEAUTY of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God”.
Can we see it now? We tend to pick out a verse and use it to judge the whole chapter. It’s not right.
Apostle Peter said our adornment should not just be about all that, but we should also work on our INNER BEAUTY.
Anyone who looks beautiful on the inside will definitely look beautiful on the outside regardless of what the person is wearing materially. It reflects from the inside out.
(If you still categorize beautiful people based on what they wear, well then…..)
The physical dressing should be done in DECENCY and MODESTY, don’t go overboard with it. Ain’t arguing about what to wear or what not to.
Permit me to rephrase 1 Corinthians 13:1, “Though I wear the finest or the ugliest of clothing and have no love; I’m like a walking scarecrow”
If I’m not wearing love, forgiveness, kindness and the other attributes in Colossians 3:12-14 or not letting the fruit of the Spirit be evident in me, then you should be worried about me.

So, let me ask you. Are you putting on the right outfit?


The Search For Bae

The Search For Bae

Oh! We know ourselves na. The only genre of sermons we have on our phones are on marriage! O’ boy! Different sermons by different pastors/teachers/preachers! We are over fed that constipation sef is happening

But still, THE ONE isn’t coming/No where to be found

Marriage seminars, we are there 

Singles conference, we are there 

Weddings we were invited to and the ones we were not invited to, we go show face😋

But still THE ONE isn’t coming/No where to be found

Chill, I’m not saying preparing for marriage by going for marriage/singles conference or listening to sermons is bad. No! It’s very good and advisable.

My point is, our focus!

Our focus has shifted from the Creator of Marriage, God!

Our focus has been placed in our search for THE ONE, so any churchy/Christian ish things that has to do with growing in Christ is avoided, but anything that has to do with Getting the One is very much embraced.

Matthew 6:33 says to Seek FIRST the Kingdom of God and all other things will be added.

Matthew 6:8 says God knows our heart desires even before we recognise the need for them

Proverbs 3:5 says to Trust in the Lord with all your heart, commit your ways to Him and He will direct your path.

In a chapter in Lady in Waiting by Debby Jones & Jackie Kendall, ” Wherever you are, whatever your circumstances may be, whether divorced, widowed, or single and getting older every day, be assured that God has not lost your address or your file” (IF He wills for you to marry, I know some of us are scared of dying a single, on a lowkey level, I am too, but I’m trusting Him to take care of it) He knows exactly what our needs are. Trust me! But we’ve got to let Him work us through the process.

Our focus has to change back to Our First Love.

Remember the story of Peter walking on water towards Jesus, yeah? While his eyes were on Jesus, he was walking on water, Bro must have felt so good. But then, for a moment he took his eyes off Jesus and guess what, you know it, he began to sink!

When we shift our focus off Jesus, sinking begins to occur. We become troubled and worried by/about everything that’s not going right in our life. Remember that when our eyes were on Jesus, we were worry-free. Not because the problems were not there, but because our focus is on Jesus and we trust Him enough to take care of us.

Let’s Shift our focus back to GOD! Shift our focus back to Jesus! Shift our focus back to the Holy Spirit!  

Psalms 37:4 AMP says: Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires and secret petitions of your heart.

Seek God First!

The One will come… (If it’s God’s will😀)
Marriage is a beautiful thing, ignore what the world is saying about marriage. We Christians are to follow God’s manual of Marriage.

Be about in your Father’s Business and watch Him work things out for your good. Remember Romans 8:28☺
PS: I’m a single! I wrote this as a reminder and encouragement to you and also to myself. We all are a Work In Progress (WIP) Don’t beat yourself too much ehn. Enjoy this process! It’s gonna be worth it!

The FOCUS should be on GOD

Watch Him take care of You

Sexual Purity

Sexual Purity

It’s not just about not having sex
That’s the physical act
It’s a total package
Sexual purity
Body, Soul & Spirit
The body can abstain from the act
The Soul may not
Remember the Bible verse
That said the eyes can undress a person
Something about looking lustfully at a person
See, it’s not just about the physical abstinence
Your soul will fight against abstaining

When you got saved, the Spirit was saved
But the mind still needs to be saved
That’s why Romans 12:2 said to constantly renew the mind
Sexual purity becomes a real problem
When the soul has been exposed to vices
Such as Masturbation, Pornography, Explicit movies, erotic videos all in the name of Music Videos
It becomes a war
The Battle can be won when you subject your entity
To God, He alone can help you Honour him
Staying sexually pure
Body, Soul and Spirit
He alone has the Grace to help you take that stand
It doesn’t matter if you’ve fallen before
He’s the Amazing God of a second chance
Take the Stand today to walk in Purity
Not just by not giving your body to the act
But your Soul and Spirit
The Holy Spirit is Your best Guide
To walking in Purity
Remember you’re bought with a Price
You’re Worth the Wait
In every sense
God loves you more than you can imagine
I Stand for Sexual Purity
What about you?

I couldn’t sleep

I couldn’t sleep

You know that moment when you find it hard to sleep at night. Yeah, been there. In fact, I was ‘there’ last night. Lemme tell you what happened.
Nathaniel Bassey started #OneHourHalleluyahChallenge. You praise God with your dance offering for an hour. 12am-1am (June1-June30). Okay, so I had prepared my playlist, songs that will last for an hour. Done my nightly ‘rituals’ i.e play Criminal Case, Cookie Crush, Worship, Read the Word, Pray, Sleep.

But I couldn’t sleep last night. I began to pray for sleep. I finished my rituals at 10:44pm and I had to be up by 11:55pm for the One hour Hallelujah praise. I was telling myself that sleep will probably ‘come’ when it’s almost time for me to actually wake up. Lo and Behold, that’s what happened exactly. The alarm rang and I was up. Though I didn’t leave my bed😞.

After the one hour has passed, I could not sleep back. I began to wonder why. Prayed for sleep, nothing happened. The rats in my room were keeping busy, while I waited for sleep. Some Christians would have used this opportunity to continue praying but not me. (God help my sleep life😞😭)

Okay, at 2:44am I was still awake. The adiye(hen) ko(crow) LOL. I was still awake. I dunno when I slept off.

Morning came, morning chores, I wondered why I couldn’t sleep at night. Walking to CDS(I am a Corper), still thinking about it. Then I realised why I could not sleep.




Goodnight To My Thoughts

Goodnight To My Thoughts

Good night to my thoughts of you
As I lay me down to sleep
I switch off the light of your face in my heart
Still wrapped in the duvet of your warmth
Remembering to shut the door to lock you out
I kicked the duvet off of me
I’d rather sleep uncovered with you
Than sleep covered with you
Knowing what it is I know
The pillow of your comforting words is no longer useful,
I’d rather cry my eyes out and stain my face with tears than tell you only for you to stain my face with fears
Oh! The window is still opened,
For the smell of you to blow in,
Shutting it now, so you’d have no way to get in
The bedside lamp of your “heart” is the only thing that reminds me of you
Contemplating on leaving it on would only give you an opportunity to go with me to Dream world
You no longer have that right
My fingers are shaky, but I know I have to do this
Praying for strength, I stretched forth my hand to the bedside lamp



PS: Forgive my bad grammar! 🙈☺ Thank you☺
I really need to ask y’all what’s up with you? What’s wrong with you? You can’t stay calm during sermon ALWAYS asking “when is the sermon gon be over? ” “dude, I feel sleepy” for some of y’all that’s when you remember you need to update your Twitter, Facebook & WhatsApp status.
That’s when you remember you need to edit that cute picture you took recently and upload it on Instagram, like those pictures, play that addictive game. Why? Sermon is boring, yeah? I guess the sermon being preached is God’s WORD, yeah? So why the lack of interest in it? If y’all really claim to love GOD and read the Word in your closet, why have that lackadaisical attitude towards Sermon??

Another thing is that, yeah yeah you is in a group. Cool! So what’s up with you feeling all big and important and all that when you’re invited to minister at a place… You ain’t there for the sermon, or any other activities, you’re just there to show your skills, how well you can hit that note, how well you can do vocal runs, how perfect you can perfect that stunt? How expressive you are during Spoken Words? etc. Who cares? Sure, the congregation are impressed. What about your MAIN AUDIENCE, GOD ALMIGHTY?? All you care about is “when am I gonna minister so I can get outta here?” Chill, who you impressing? Who you forming cool for? The only person that should matter is GOD! No one else. Most of y’all are conformers. Just ”cause the people in your group are chatting while an activity is going on, you should do the same! Really? Or just ’cause your group members are leaving after the ministration, you too should leave? I don’t get it! Why are you in the group in the first place? To show people how well you can sing? Dance? Do Spoken Words? Or just truly because you wanna use your gift for God’s glory? Really? Remember the PERSON we all gonna account to is GOD not man. God’s not gonna care that you were trying to act cool before your friends.
If you’re tryna act cool when you’re with your loved one and your friends happen to be there, that’s just pretense, to me at least.
Y’all can sing about how much you luh God but SERIOUSLY HE DESERVES MORE THAN YOU ARE GIVING HIM!
Let’s have a rethink… Abeg (Please)
If you really love someone you should not be shy or cautious about what people will say on how you feel towards the person. The person should be your focus. No one else!

He Knows

He Knows

Who knows a product better than the producer? Who knows a creature better than its creator? There’s nothing about you that your Maker does not know. He knows everything .

God knows you, He knows your story. Even when you think He’s not aware of the happenings in your life. He knows. In the book of Jeremiah, He told him that even before He formed him, He knew him. Psalms 139: 1-16 explains this.

God knows the real you.

He sees the tears stained face covered with Make-up by False Appearance.

He sees the scarred skin and bruises covered with Dress by Hide My Flaws Couture.

He sees the feet that have walked the walks of shame, abandon, & neglect that are covered with Shoes by Don’t Let Me Fall Designers .

He sees the fingernails that have scratched the floor in agony that are covered with Nails by Hold Me Gently Nails.

He sees the head that has endured so many punches that even a punching bag can’t withstand if it could talk, headaches due to excessive tears that are covered with Head Accessories by Delicate Skull by Flenak.

He sees the child in a man that sees ladies as a toys you can do away with when you get bored because the Father never respected the Mother.

He sees the man who is so full of ego just because he has suffered from heartbreaks, never wanting to experience such pain again.

He sees the man that his heart yearns for Him but because he saw his Mother die from Cancer after putting so much trust in Him for her healing that never came, he blocked God out of his heart.

Take off the camouflage and come before God. He knows the real you. He loves you regardless. He sees beneath the outward you. He’s telling you He loves you. I  can’t explain God’s love. Babe/Dude, you need to experience it. He sees you from the future you, your past means zilch to Him. Just come to Him! His love for you is an everlasting one (Jeremiah 31:3).

Ever read the book of Hosea??? God loves you toooo much!!! Are you willing and ready to show Him the real you? I can assure you that He’ll never turn you away.

He’s waiting☺😘

Song: Loyal – Lauren Daigle